Do you have friends?

When you grow up over the years, you can find people that have the same mood as you and may have the same goals as you. Sometimes those people help you in different situations that you go through in your life; they are in the good and the bad situations, and you can trust them. Those kinds of people have a label, and the label is a friend. I remember the first time that I heard the word friend was when I was studying in elementary school, or, to be more precise, in pre-kindergarten. Our teacher had been explaining the meaning of friendship, and she told us if we wanted to get a friend, we needed to be friendly with everybody. After that, my attitude changed. I wanted to have a friend, and for me, it was difficult because I was shut-in, so I started to be outgoing, but that attitude in me only lasted one week. After that, I continued to be shut-in, and if you want to know if I got a friend during that time, I can tell you that I couldn’t get a friend. In this blog entry, first, I will explain to you the different friends that you can find in your life; second, I will tell you about my experience having friends; and finally, I will tell you if it’s important to have friends.

During your life, you can find different friends in your path, and in different places; sometimes you can find friends in your school, work, etc. Those kinds of friends could last you for a lifetime; others that will only be there for a short time; others that will support you one hundred percent, and others that will hurt you. I think these kinds of friends that hurt you aren't your friends because a friend doesn't hurt you. I remember that I knew a person that I thought was my friend, but it was not like that because one day we were talking about the usual things. He made a comment that hurt me a lot: he only “spoke to me out of pity.” That hurt a lot and created an insecurity in myself.

To be honest, I don't have many experiences with having friends because I've always been one of those people who, when I was a teenager, was afraid to talk to strangers. I didn't have the opportunity to have several friends because I didn't like it either. I didn’t go to parties or something like that. Furthermore, I think that's why I can't find friends. But after the experience of hearing them tell me I was pitiful, I began to think that the people who talked to me or liked to spend time with me were doing it out of pity for me. Many years have passed, I still have the same problem. I feel that people talk to me only out of pity, and that's it.

I think that it’s obvious that humans need friends; one person can live without a friend because when you have a friend, you can share your emotions, feelings, thoughts, experiences, etc. So, in my experience, it’s too difficult to not have a friend because you can't share your joys and sorrows with someone. I know we have a family we can share, but there are some things you can't share with your family or tell them about.

In summary, in life, we will find different people who will be important in our lives. There are going to be others that you wish you had not found, and obviously, you are going to find a person that you would call a best friend and with whom you would feel comfortable.